A quick look into how NY resolutions can make or break your year
Have you ever had a new year's resolution? One wherein you swore off alcohol, or passed up sugar, or promised yourself a triweekly session at the local gym, or some sort of devotion to a craft or hobby to keep yourself productively busy, or something as simple as less screen time on the phone--the list goes on in a varied spectrum of rationality: from realistic to idealistic to borderline "are you sure about that?!" It's almost like a universal tradition to set goals for the new year. Some have a long list, while others keep it short and sweet. It makes us feel intentional, oriented and prepared. All great things for someone who wants to keep their life together ✋
Now, I'm not saying that in order for you to be a put-together person, you have to have a list of resolutions. I'm sure there is a multitude of successful and put-together individuals out there that don't have a "New Year's Resolutions List", and you might just be one of them. For the people that do make this a tradition and actually stick by it, yours is the power. But for the majority, the vagueness of the word "resolution" may just be its downfall.
The word itself tends to set us up for failure. It implies that achieving a goal is as simple as setting the intention to do so (though intention plays a big role). In reality, setting a goal and being intentional about it is just the first part--it's the desk duty. To actually see it through requires implementing carefully designed strategies for making resolutions--or better yet--new habits stick.
We all have habits and not all of our habits are good, and that's okay. We have ones that serve us and ones that absolutely do not. These habits are important because we do not only cultivate them, they also have the propensity to impact our lives in the long run. Sometimes, we unintentionally pick them up, and sometimes we build them with so much care and intention. Here lies the beauty of our human capabilities and free will. Our habits in part determine our physical and mental health, shape many of our relationships, help us to achieve our goals, and allow us to embody the type of person we want to be.
Always remember, setting resolutions for the sole purpose of checking them off the list is a red flag. The bucket list is not the list. It is self-expansion; it is where you cultivate your habits--the ones that serve you--and watch them grow and flourish as you live your life--not just your year--to the fullest in the brightest of spectrums because, ultimately, all this has very little to do with doing, but more on being.
With our 21 days of Affirmations mini series up and running for more than two months now, we are paying homage to where it started--and one of the big inspirations for this course. In Louise Hay's published work, What is Mirror Work?, she acknowledges affirmations as effective subconscious messages that establish habitual ways of thinking and behaving. The most powerful affirmations are those that you can truly say out loud with belief and conviction. This is where mirror work becomes supplemental. The mirror, as it reflects your outward self, can also reflect back to you the feelings you have about your inward self.
Statistically the average person's stream of consciousness is 70-90% negative. This depicts the multifarious feelings and thoughts that pass through the human mind on a daily basis. Sometimes, statements in your head can whiten out reality. You might be doing this habitually, through years and years of unconscious practice, or vice-versa (through conscious practice for whatever befitting reasoning). But, just as were you given the innate ability to flip the script towards negativity, you were also given the same faculty to do so towards positivity.
Now, you may wonder: Why a 21-day program? Can you totally transform your life in just three weeks? There's no one answer to this. If a major perspective change is too much for you right now, you can start a day at a time by planting seeds towards this affirmative transformation. If you're ready, open and in a position to commit to the exciting and whimsical winds of change, your life can transform swiftly.
Adding affirmations shouldn't simply be just a 21-day thing, a "one and done" or a kickstart to a lifetime long automation of self. It's a lifestyle, a practice that you don't only do for the sake of doing, but for the sake of ingraining. And don't let it just stop there--don't let it stop with you. Make it a tradition, something you can pass down from generation to generation. Not only will this practice affect you. Once your energy changes, so does your energy field, which has the influential capacity to affect the people that surround you. That's how powerful you are.
Coupled with mirror work, you can be more aware of the words you say, the things you do, what you're resisting and where you are open and flowing. You will then learn to take care of yourself--and the people around you--on a deeper level than you have done before. You become less self-critical, and the 'mirror work' turns into 'mirror play'. Eventually, this will start feeling like less of a program and more of a character trait as you transform into, a more pronounced and positive version of your inner self by developing new and healthy habits of mind that open the door to a more joyous and fulfilling life.
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