 What are you drawing to you?
Recently, I had a few readings from my new friend Jennifer (amazing! Check her out!) and the biggest takeaway and lesson that I seem to be working on right now is clearing up the path to my desired destination. I've worked very hard at manifestation for a very long time. I can keep my vibration high, but I'm human, so it dips... I doubt, I worry, I ruminate. Negative mind creeps back in. I reset, take a break, practice self-care, journal, and let go. All the things. But right now, she said, I'm at the precipice of something major, and I don't feel like I'm the only one. If you, too, are ruminating with some drama, that maybe brings you a little anxiety when you get into your quiet place, the "I wish I didn't have to deal with this," kind of energy, then getting clear on what you need, and what energy you want to surround yourself with—i.e. setting boundaries around the drama, the discordance, and the mistrust--a new sense of trust and inner safety will come in. As soon as you let things flow at a natural state, you will amplify the power of attraction. The collaboration, the networking, the clients, the connections will increase—you'll then see clearly, like it's all coming together. It's that simple. NOW is the time to get to the point where you're wide open and connected to the divine, the I AM presence. You have to choose yourself first, be one with yourself—your higher self. Because otherwise, whatever other energy you're sitting in (or who's energy!) that's what you're drawing to yourself, remember. The language you use, the vision you have, the trust you create--it all must come from a positive place, a loving place, a peaceful and self-aware place, and it takes work to stay there, and not let anyone else's control drama or limiting belief stories enter into your sanctuary. BE THE KEEPER OF YOUR OWN SANCTUARY. And the only way to do that is with clear and present boundaries, like fencing around your garden to keep the wildlife out. Only then, will manifestation feel like a breeze. "That was easy!" Shine on, my friend. Shine on.
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The 3 decisions
Last weekend, I was "in the room" with Tony Robbins. He was our closing speaker at a personal growth event I attended, and even though I've heard a lot of what Tony has to say, it always lands hard like a *whack* to the head, with a resounding YES! What stuck with me this time was the concept of your "emotional home," meaning, when things get tough, what emotion is most present for you? Anger? Shame? Guilt? Worry? Fear? Shutdown? We all have one. My first teacher called it "your basic assumption," because it's one of your first programs, and the one that dug its claws in the deepest and sticks to your field the most. To find this emotional home, ask yourself: What is the first "decision" you make when someone's 30-minute late to a date with you? Pissed they're wasting your time? Worried they've been in an accident? Self conscious that you may have gotten the date and place wrong? When we make these assumptions, we are filled with the emotion that is our "normal" response, and we often don't notice where it settles, but it also usually has a home—anger in the core (2nd or 3rd Chakra), worry in the heart (4th Chakra), or maybe the mind (6th). Where ever this lands and sticks, we also often have health issues—gut issues, heart or lung problems, headaches... So it goes without saying that we need to clear these emotions. Release and refresh! The question is: How? Tony brought us a simple message. 3 decisions that control your quality of life:
First, it's always best to find the advantage in everything—look for the positive, the lesson, the gift. You can focus on what you have vs. what you don't. Then, choose a meaning that empowers you—hear yourself, and honor the small mind for a moment if it's saying something like, "because bad things always happen to me." But Higher Self knows that isn't true. It's only true because you have claimed that story. Instead, choose a different meaning. Like... "this is happening to show me a better way." Last, decide to do something productive about it. People react based on their emotional home, and this is the ultimate emotional mastery--to recognize it, honor it, and release it. So, when you hear a pattern over and over again, you may think it's you, or something's wrong with you. But it isn't. Bottom line: This is a software issue, and you need your software updated! To do so, the best answer is simple: ✎ Focus on what you have, on what you can control, and the present moment. ✎ Choose a different outcome, and set the compass to get there. ✎ Take action by taking steps in that direction, doing your affirmations, talking with someone who's positive, releasing the things that cause you stress, etc. The time is now, to clean your emotional home. Be the light that is always within you, Andy  Yeah, you read that right...
Have you been told you're a perfectionist? Or do you know one? (Yes, to both.) Have you caught yourself micromanaging a situation? Or ever felt micromanaged? (Yes, to both.) This new word combo came out of my mouth as I watched my sister-in-law putz around the beach, trying to find a spot for the speaker that wasn't too loud, too quiet, or too something else. I offered a suggestion, which she didn't take, and I backed off, remembering that I said I wasn't going to make a single decision on this trip, because I need a break and that's the biggest thing I need a break from. And then I turned to my husband and said, "You can't micromanage perfectionism." And we both looked wide-eyed at each other, and he replied, "that's your big TED Talk." Not that I care to give a TED Talk. But if I were, this may be my breakthrough. I'm still chewing this tangy concept, but it seems worth a deeper glance. So ask yourself, as I have, "where are you micromanaging your own perfectionism?" Or someone else's. Or both. Because... ✎ 1. Micromanaging is exhaustingly unnecessary and futile. ✎ 2. Perfectionism, same. Yet, we all do it. Because... Both types (or are the Micromanager and the Perfectionist one and the same?) second guess ourselves and don't trust others to do IT right. Which creates stagnancy, procrastination, indecision, and in general and simple terms, SLOWS THE ENERGY, like thick molasses that can't move through the channels of abundance and manifestation. So the lesson--and the solution--is to recognize it when it rears its ugly head, ("Aha! I see you, you 8-eyed monster!") and first, ask why. Then ask for a script-flip, and then practice (as always, multiple times daily!) said flip. Not that helping my sister-in-law place a speaker is seriously halting my flow... But the energy of it—the getting sucked into her own perfectionism of not just putting the speaker somewhere and letting go of whether all 15 people can hear it equally—isn't an energy of ease, flow, or relax. (The energy I needed on vacation!) But I saw the mirror of this clearly—where I do this myself, and how often. And my point here is that someone else's (and/or your own) unhealthy need to make IT perfect—whatever IT is—is never going to be something you can solve with a suggestion, meddling, or management. The solution is always surrender the outcome and expectation. Without expectation, there is nothing to GRIP onto. (Aha!) I feel a workshop coming on! Don't white-knuckle the road trip, practice non-attachment. Are you hearing this?!
I'm hearing a lot of whining lately. I'm not judging, it was coming from my mouth, too! When a friend called me out on it, I started to listen. . . Then another friend called, spiraling into the depths of despair. I saw a post about all the bad luck. I'm hearing sob stories. Is it in the stars? What are we collectively clearing? Old wounds? What dramas are repeating? Is it our past lives? Are we collectively tired from the past 3 years? Stuck in a cycle? Every time I hear it—the whining, the begging for prayers, the spiraling downward, I want to scream: STOP! Your thoughts create things! What you focus on expands! What you resist persists! And I hear in response: "How can I NOT focus on it. It's everywhere!" Positivity, joy, delight, good fortune. . . It all takes persistence, consistency, and vigilance! The mind is a naughty monkey. The ego is both a blessing and a curse. So, listen closely. Observe. And shift: Don't hang around people who bring you down. Don't watch the news. Don't click on the sob stories. Don't even respond. Instead, get a new mantra (e.g. It always works out in a positive outcome for me!) and repeat it often. As often as you hear the negative track, and immediately. I like the phrase, "cancel, cancel." I learned this from Cordelia, the old woman who ran the crystal shop in Steamboat, in 1999. If she heard herself or anyone else spout some negative track, she'd say, "cancel cancel!" As if to wipe the chalk board clear and start over. But, you have to listen to be able to do that. People spout all sorts of crap without listening, and it just perpetuates the drama--over and over. And they wonder why their kid crashed their car, the dog got sick, and the hot water heater flooded, all in the same week. Crap tracks include: "When it rains it pours." "I'm a terrible mother." And even shorties like "not again!" When you expect the worst, and reinforce it with "see, I told you so" kind of energy or words, the energy aligns to show you what you're looking for. Look for the best, even in the little things. Approach the day with gratitude. Paste notes around the house to remind you. Do your affirmations 3x/day, and if it has to be a WHOLE deck that takes you 5 minutes, do it. YOU are in control. Stop the whining, and not just to "be a good sport" or "play through pain," but to manifest your very best life. Enough is enough. Winning, Andy |
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