Micromanaging Perfectionism

Yeah, you read that right...

​Have you been told you're a perfectionist? Or do you know one?
(Yes, to both.)

Have you caught yourself micromanaging a situation? Or ever felt micromanaged?
(Yes, to both.)

This new word combo came out of my mouth as I watched my sister-in-law putz around the beach, trying to find a spot for the speaker that wasn't too loud, too quiet, or too something else.

I offered a suggestion, which she didn't take, and I backed off, remembering that I said I wasn't going to make a single decision on this trip, because I need a break and that's the biggest thing I need a break from.

And then I turned to my husband and said, "You can't micromanage perfectionism." And we both looked wide-eyed at each other, and he replied, "that's your big TED Talk."

Not that I care to give a TED Talk. But if I were, this may be my breakthrough.

I'm still chewing this tangy concept, but it seems worth a deeper glance. So ask yourself, as I have, "where are you micromanaging your own perfectionism?" Or someone else's. Or both. Because...
✎ 1. Micromanaging is exhaustingly unnecessary and futile.
✎ 2. Perfectionism, same.
Yet, we all do it. 

Because...

Both types (or are the Micromanager and the Perfectionist one and the same?) second guess ourselves and don't trust others to do IT right. Which creates stagnancy, procrastination, indecision, and in general and simple terms, SLOWS THE ENERGY, like thick molasses that can't move through the channels of abundance and manifestation.

So the lesson--and the solution--is to recognize it when it rears its ugly head, ("Aha! I see you, you 8-eyed monster!") and first, ask why. Then ask for a script-flip, and then practice (as always, multiple times daily!) said flip.

Not that helping my sister-in-law place a speaker is seriously halting my flow... But the energy of it—the getting sucked into her own perfectionism of not just putting the speaker somewhere and letting go of whether all 15 people can hear it equally—isn't an energy of ease, flow, or relax. (The energy I needed on vacation!) But I saw the mirror of this clearly—where I do this myself, and how often.

And my point here is that someone else's (and/or your own) unhealthy need to make IT perfect—whatever IT is—is never going to be something you can solve with a suggestion, meddling, or management. The solution is always surrender the outcome and expectation.

Without expectation, there is nothing to GRIP onto. (Aha!)

I feel a workshop coming on!

Don't white-knuckle the road trip, practice non-attachment.