Your "Emotional Home" from Tony Robbins

The 3 decisions

Last weekend, I was "in the room" with Tony Robbins. He was our closing speaker at a personal growth event I attended, and even though I've heard a lot of what Tony has to say, it always lands hard like a *whack* to the head, with a resounding YES!

What stuck with me this time was the concept of your "emotional home," meaning, when things get tough, what emotion is most present for you? Anger? Shame? Guilt? Worry? Fear? Shutdown?

We all have one. My first teacher called it "your basic assumption," because it's one of your first programs, and the one that dug its claws in the deepest and sticks to your field the most.

To find this emotional home, ask yourself: What is the first "decision" you make when someone's 30-minute late to a date with you? Pissed they're wasting your time? Worried they've been in an accident? Self conscious that you may have gotten the date and place wrong?

When we make these assumptions, we are filled with the emotion that is our "normal" response, and we often don't notice where it settles, but it also usually has a home—anger in the core (2nd or 3rd Chakra), worry in the heart (4th Chakra), or maybe the mind (6th). Where ever this lands and sticks, we also often have health issues—gut issues, heart or lung problems, headaches...

So it goes without saying that we need to clear these emotions. Release and refresh!

The question is: How?

Tony brought us a simple message.

3 decisions that control your quality of life:

1. Focus: What are you going to focus on? Because what you focus on, you feel. Focus = feelings.
2. Meaning: What meaning are you going to give this? Ask yourself, what does this mean? Why is this happening? Meaning = emotion = life.
3. Action: What are you going to do?

First, it's always best to find the advantage in everything—look for the positive, the lesson, the gift. You can focus on what you have vs. what you don't.

Then, choose a meaning that empowers you—hear yourself, and honor the small mind for a moment if it's saying something like, "because bad things always happen to me." But Higher Self knows that isn't true. It's only true because you have claimed that story. Instead, choose a different meaning. Like... "this is happening to show me a better way."

Last, decide to do something productive about it.

People react based on their emotional home, and this is the ultimate emotional mastery--to recognize it, honor it, and release it.

So, when you hear a pattern over and over again, you may think it's you, or something's wrong with you. But it isn't. Bottom line: This is a software issue, and you need your software updated!

To do so, the best answer is simple:

✎ Focus on what you have, on what you can control, and the present moment.
✎ Choose a different outcome, and set the compass to get there.
✎ Take action by taking steps in that direction, doing your affirmations, talking with someone who's positive, releasing the things that cause you stress, etc.

The time is now, to clean your emotional home.

Be the light that is always within you,
Andy