Becoming the Best Version of Yourself. . .
One of the most transformative things that you can do for yourself is to remember who you truly are. I'm not talking about the "you" who you think you are, or the one defined by the roles you play or the masks you wear. Not the one who is driven by fear, insecurity or need. But the real you – pure, shining, precious, whole, undamaged and undefended.
That "you" lies deep within. It's another dimension of self, some would say "true self," that's been there since birth, but only seldom tapped into or discovered. Now, you may wonder: If I have a true self, then why wasn't it my default self to begin with? Why am I someone else when I could've been this truer version in the first place, and why is it so difficult to be that version?
Throughout the course of our lives, we've developed false identities in order to survive and thrive in the world. We learn to seek approval or create a certain image that we show to the world or take a stand as independent or defiant. We strive for money, power, control, or love. It's the human in us. And it is so understandable why we do this. Early on in life, we get the message that who we truly are is unacceptable. We shouldn’t feel the way we feel, we should think and act in ways that will please those around us. We learn to suppress ourselves, to ignore and avoid our natural longings so we can feel safe and loved.
The result? Confusion, alienation, separation and massive discontent. This is how we gradually lose our way.
The trail of breadcrumbs back to our true selves is always available – we just need to learn how to recognize it. Moments of joy and contentment, the flash of a creative idea, an inner knowing that cannot be denied, a fleeting sense of being connected to all of life, a realization of love so huge that it seems impossible to contain. When you notice these experiences, stop and let yourself revel in the celebration.
And then there are the breadcrumbs of another sort. These call us to be honest, investigate, study how our conditioning works, be vigilant so we can choose wisely. Some examples: being caught in the whirlwind of a habit; recognizing the ways you avoid and defend; becoming aware of a consistent pattern in choices you make that don’t serve you; general unhappiness. If you use these experiences well, you see them clearly with open eyes. You are willing to change and let go. You see them as a reflection of the ways you are veiled, and you stay true to your intention to remember your truest, happiest self.
In truth, you are never stuck. Being stuck is a frame of mind, unwillingness, a strategy of self-protection. What seems stuck is always ready to soften, and all it takes is your kindness, your clear intention, your willingness to put down all the weapons of defense and rest in things as they are. When you touch into who you really are, there is a recognition. Oh, I remember. That’s who I am, and we meet ourselves like a long-lost friend.
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